When your dad's a jerk, is it OK to accept his love?

My dad was an abrasive, unaware, selfish jerk, but that was only one side. Did his loving side count too?

Daphne’s complex feelings about her dad came up when he died suddenly.

Before I was old enough to complain about my own parents, I heard boomers complaining about theirs. Resentments they harbored for decades started coming out when I was a kid in the 80s. Most boomers I knew seemed unhappy and upset about their childhoods — even the ones who had it pret…