Amen, Amy G! I have been talking to everyone about this feeling that I am a teenager again! I feel at the mercy of my feelings!! And my poor children and husband who have to deal with my outbursts. More yoga, better diet, magnesium are not doing the trick.
Yes! I totally get this. (Although in our house, it's me trying to throw away things that my husband is actively using. "Where are you going with that chair?" "THE. ROOM. IS CLUTTERED.")
Anyway, we must be in sync because I wrote about peri today, too:
Just read your piece. Please write about HRT. I am very curious. I told my therapist maybe I need medication and he said you are not sick and then some version of what you wrote about the feelings being real and valid!
OMG amazing -- "Velma on cocaine" may be the very best description of how I feel most days. (I too am always losing my readers ... only to find them when I go to put my second-favorite pair on top of my head and realize my first choice have been on top of my head the whole time)
Have you been creeping in my kitchen?? Because you perfectly described the EXACT location (corner cabinet) and setup (2 lazy Susan shelves) of where we keep our Tupperware 🤨 my meno rage moment wasn’t because my husband tried to organize and purge (HA!! I wish) but rather because he somehow waltzes through his days completely oblivious to his surroundings…drives me mental
Possibly. Or maybe it's simply that women when they hit menopause, after a lifetime of caretaking others and stuffing down their own needs, and having their labor being "unseen" and unappreciated by their partner, have simply had enough and find their voice and speak up, and people around them don't know what to do with that, and the women realize that their partner prefers them to be self-sacrificing and doing "all the things" and that's when the women realize they're done. So, is it "Do I want a divorce or is it menopause..." or is it "I hit menopause and spoke up and the consequences followed..." Your personal story sounds like a marriage of partnership, but there are MANY women out there who have been "doing it all" in the midst of an unequal partnership and are simply done when they hit menopause. To ignore them in this article and to gloss it all over as menopause rage seems almost like an act of the patriarchy -- blame the women and their darn hormones.
Amen, Amy G! I have been talking to everyone about this feeling that I am a teenager again! I feel at the mercy of my feelings!! And my poor children and husband who have to deal with my outbursts. More yoga, better diet, magnesium are not doing the trick.
We hear you, sister.
It's all so wild. I have a teenager at home and I'm sure he's completely at loss at what's going on with his mom.
Same. Except I feel like there's this twisted reality that moms and kids hit perimenopause and puberty at the same time...
Our 13 year old son doesn’t seem much phased by anything 😆 ah, to have that level of indifference - I’m really looking forward to that stage of life
Yes! I totally get this. (Although in our house, it's me trying to throw away things that my husband is actively using. "Where are you going with that chair?" "THE. ROOM. IS CLUTTERED.")
Anyway, we must be in sync because I wrote about peri today, too:
https://open.substack.com/pub/oldmomthings/p/my-best-worst-perimenopause-symptom?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Just read your piece. Please write about HRT. I am very curious. I told my therapist maybe I need medication and he said you are not sick and then some version of what you wrote about the feelings being real and valid!
OMG amazing -- "Velma on cocaine" may be the very best description of how I feel most days. (I too am always losing my readers ... only to find them when I go to put my second-favorite pair on top of my head and realize my first choice have been on top of my head the whole time)
Have you been creeping in my kitchen?? Because you perfectly described the EXACT location (corner cabinet) and setup (2 lazy Susan shelves) of where we keep our Tupperware 🤨 my meno rage moment wasn’t because my husband tried to organize and purge (HA!! I wish) but rather because he somehow waltzes through his days completely oblivious to his surroundings…drives me mental
You caught us. Yep! We've been hiding in your Lazy Susan. (though, we'd like to change the name to Super-sonic Susan.
Possibly. Or maybe it's simply that women when they hit menopause, after a lifetime of caretaking others and stuffing down their own needs, and having their labor being "unseen" and unappreciated by their partner, have simply had enough and find their voice and speak up, and people around them don't know what to do with that, and the women realize that their partner prefers them to be self-sacrificing and doing "all the things" and that's when the women realize they're done. So, is it "Do I want a divorce or is it menopause..." or is it "I hit menopause and spoke up and the consequences followed..." Your personal story sounds like a marriage of partnership, but there are MANY women out there who have been "doing it all" in the midst of an unequal partnership and are simply done when they hit menopause. To ignore them in this article and to gloss it all over as menopause rage seems almost like an act of the patriarchy -- blame the women and their darn hormones.